Do you find yourself obsessing over your love-life?
Did you know that there are NINE whole aspects of your life that could probably use your attention – and that when attended to, would likely help your love-life run more smoothly?
Let’s take a look, shall we?
First, there are the aspects that make up who you are:
How well are the needs of these pieces of you being cared for? Are you cultivating your mental acuity? Are you tending to your emotions? Do you get good exercise and plenty of sleep? Are you eating whole healthy foods? Does your soul get the nourishment it needs?
Then there are the things you do:
Are you nurturing these foundations of your daily life with seeds that will grow sustainably into fulfilling endeavors? Are you building a career that enhances your values? Are you earning, spending, and saving in alignment with your true worth? Are you fostering relationships that create mutual enrichment? Are you maintaining all the relationships that are important to you?
There are also the reasons you do what you do:
Are you spending time working towards these ultimate end-goals of yours? In what ways do you hope to grow in life, and how are you progressing in that arena? What experiences do you plan to get out of life, and what steps are you taking to make these happen? How do you want to contribute in the world, and what are you doing to enhance that?
I bet I got your mind of your love-life for a minute!
These 9 aspects make up the foundation of your life, and when they are imbalanced, your foundation gets wobbly, which – just like standing on shaky ground – results in insecurity. It’s crucial to have a stable foundation and a solid sense of security, in order to enjoy a happy love-life. Well, a happy life, really.
In order to stabilize your foundation, it must be balanced. A lot of people make the mistake of trying to prioritize between these aspects, but your one priority is maintaining balance among them – because they’re all connected!
Balance is personal, and will look different for everyone, but you will know you’re out of balance by the experience of struggles in one or more of these aspects. The trick, though, is that the strife in one area is actually a symptom of neglect in another area.
When you are having a hard time in one aspect of life, take a look at the others, and start giving more attention to the areas that have been neglected. You will find that the issues in that other area begin to magically resolve.
The benefits of this practice are numerous.
- When you take a more holistic approach to your life, it has a synergistic effect, and every piece, as well as the whole, will operate more effectively.
- It alleviates obsessive ruminating by giving your monkey-mind multiple bones to chew on.
- People with balanced foundations feel more secure, and therefore exhibit greater confidence, which is an all-around attractive trait.
Whenever you catch yourself hyper-focusing on one aspect – or even one piece of one aspect of your life – recall the bigger picture, zoom out, and refocus on an area that could use some love.