Stop drowning in obligations
As a growth-driven woman who wants to say YES to the whole world – and often does – you might not always pause to check if you actually have the capacity, or if it’s even aligned with your values and goals.
Whether the intention is to keep the peace or keep the pace, this pattern probably has you frequently feeling overextended, exhausted, and maybe even a bit (a lot?) resentful.
As a serial entrepreneur and recovering people-pleaser, I get it!
My nervous system got wired to find safety in everyone else’s needs being met, so I got pretty disconnected from my own needs and limits, and had no framework for healthy boundaries. At the same time, I was also encouraged to take on the world, so I found myself going after more than I could effectively manage.
In reconnecting to myself and my own values, goals, needs, and limits, I was able to bring my whole life into authentic alignment with them, and start saying No – as easily as a joyful Yes – to everything else.
Introducing: the Better Boundaries 1:1 coaching program
In just 90 days – with ZERO platitudes about “No is a complete sentence” – you’ll root your security within yourself to start honoring your boundaries with love and ease, and you’ll build the foundation for a more authentically aligned life, filled with more richly fulfilling relationships and more thriving endeavors.
Boundaries that deepen connection
Beyond Flimsy Fences (where we say Yes too often) and Spiked Walls (where we say No too harshly), lie Selective Gates.
These boundaries have you saying No without disconnecting – which builds trust and safety in your relationships.
They also support you in drawing your boundaries around behaviors instead of people, effectively giving them the keys to accessing you – through the gates that you’ve installed.
When you learn to see Boundaries as simply the limits of your precious resources, you’ll become their noble steward – and you’ll appreciate the honesty and self-care in other people’s boundaries, too.
As with the Oxygen Mask Rule: we’re no good to anyone if we run out of “air”.
Healthy boundaries are loving!
Contrary to popular opinion, you don’t have to sacrifice your compassion in order to become empowered and boundaried. Having a big heart isn’t a liability!
Love is unconditional. Relationships are not. That’s what boundaries are for.
You might part ways with the misaligned as needed, but you can do it with love and grace, so you don’t house bitterness in that beautiful heart of yours.
Empower Your Compassion >>
- So it’s big enough for yourself as well as others, and so your boundaries can become healthier than ever.
- So you can reconnect to your True Yes, and start saying No FROM that more expansive energy.
- So you can show up RESOURCED for the people and projects you care most about.
Lasting change
You can’t break out of your patterns simply by DOING things differently, though. You have to transform the BEING you’re doing FROM.
Fair warning: this is inherently UNCOMFORTABLE AF, but the only way out is through – and it’s totally worth it.
The role of a Transformational Coach (such as myself) is to serve as a mirror for your blind spots and show you what needs to be loved.
Hi, I’m Love Coach Mariya
I’ve been where you are! It started with friends telling me I needed better boundaries, and me not even knowing what that meant.
Then, in navigating a very dysfunctional relationship, where there was a lot of love, but I frequently felt unseen and unappreciated, I finally discovered a loving path from People-Pleaser to Boundaried Beacon.
Coaching folks for over a decade now, I’ve helped hundreds of conscientious women empower their compassion, and it would be my honor to guide you to your Authentic Alignment.
Testimonials of Transformation
I had no idea where to start, or exactly what boundaries were. Now I’m able to take more of a step back in the moment, check in with myself, and lead from there, instead of feeling compelled to react as requested.
Anna B.
I felt out of control in how I was loving others and myself. I didn’t want to feel that way anymore. I now relate to my boundaries as being within me, not outside of me. I understand now that I am truly in control when it comes to how I react.
D’Onta P.
This was an eye opening and deeply enriching experience for me. I’m now checking in with myself and making sure that I am not violating my own boundaries in situations where before I would just people-please.
Alina P.
Better Boundaries Program Details
From Flimsy Fences and Spiked Walls to Selective Gates, Better Boundaries is designed to help you with:
- Saying No when you need to – in a way that’s compassionate to you AND your counterpart,
- Communicating and honoring boundaries effectively, and
- Enhancing ALL your relationships – so they feel more balanced and you feel more appreciated.
You could continue feeling anxious, resentful, and unappreciated, or – You can open your whole life up to your True YES, and finally start feeling more abundant, more spacious, and more supported.
Say YES to your Freedom!
Not your average boundaries coaching – this 90-day one-on-one program is designed to rewire decades-old conditioning that has hijacked your nervous system and put your people-pleasing on auto-pilot.
Most women spend years lamenting their resentment, or just talking about their boundary issues, without ever creating lasting change. Others spend their precious resources on group coaching programs, workshops, and DIY courses that only teach techniques and don’t address the root causes, leaving them frustrated and – sadly – wondering what’s wrong with them.
This work is transformative and it creates ripples through every aspect of your life:
- Your relationships become more deeply connected and fulfilling…
- Your career advances because you’re no longer depleted and resentful (and you’re exuding confidence and self-respect)…
- Your parenting improves because you can now self-regulate and you model healthy self-care…
- Your inner peace becomes unshakeable because it’s sourced from within…
The women who’ve done this work don’t just have better boundaries – they have fundamentally enhanced lives.
What’s included in Better Boundaries
> 12 weekly one-on-one coaching sessions in a lovingly held container of safety and support.
> Targeted tools and practical exercises, to foster your boundary development.
> Unlimited text/email access for added support between sessions.
+ BONUS: Free access to my Inner Circle, so you don’t have to feel alone in this deep work.
What’s NOT included:
I will not judge, pressure, or “fix” you. You are a perfectly divine being on an immensely sacred journey, and I trust your inner guidance.
What’s covered in Better Boundaries
In addition to receiving customized support with your specific situation, you will leave this program with a comprehensive and embodied understanding of my signature process for developing and honoring healthy boundaries:
The GATES Method
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Ground
Anchor yourself in your body and your values to discern between safe and unsafe discomfort, to feel into what’s aligned or misaligned for you, and to stay regulated.
Assess
Take an honest inventory of your finite resources of time, energy, attention, etc – and connect with what you’re truly a YES to, so you can say No from that more expansive energy.
Trust
Honor the sovereignty of others, their ability to problem-solve (you are rarely anyone’s only resource), and their capacity to recover from any disappointment in your No.
Express
Communicate about your boundaries with honesty, compassion, respect, and ownership, while also staying connected to your counterpart. (You can always follow a No with a Yes!)
Steward
Uphold your boundaries consistently, so you’re able to show up resourced – for your own inner child and wellbeing, as well as the people and projects you care most about.
What the logistics look like
- We’ll start with a Connection Call to make sure we resonate and both feel good about working together.
~ - If we’re a go, we’ll finalize your enrollment and schedule our first session from that connection call, and then I’ll send you an intake form to complete before we meet again, so that we can both be sure to set you up for success.
~ - In each one-on-one coaching session, we’ll start by reflecting on where you’re at and any new developments on your journey, and then I’ll provide you with fresh tools that you’ll be able to put into practice immediately.
~ - At the end of our 90 days together, you’ll have a whole new set of tools for Better Boundaries and more loving relationships, and we can talk about next steps for you and additional options for us :)
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FAQ
I’m already communicating my boundaries, but it doesn’t seem to be working. Is this program still something that will help me?
Absolutely! This program is designed to support the development of healthy boundaries for everyone and enhance the connections in all kinds of relationships.
I don’t have a problem saying No, but I might be too good at it… Is this program the right fit for me?
Absolutely! This program is designed to support the development of healthy boundaries for everyone and enhance the connections in all kinds of relationships.
I’ve already tried All The Things – how will this be any different?
Well, I honestly can’t make any guarantees about your outcomes (’cause those are ultimately on you), but since you’re here, I’m guessing that you’ve only been working on the surface of Doing, and you haven’t experienced Transformational Coaching yet, which focuses on the BEING you’re Doing FROM.
There are so many “life hacks”, “how tos”, and “quick fixes” out there, that we lose sight of where those types of solutions are appropriate and where they’re not. These are handy for learning how to improve upon what you’re already Doing, but they do not help you BECOME something entirely new. Real transformation isn’t well-suited to DIY – it’s too hard to see your own blocks! Yes, anyone CAN change, but it’s a lot easier and faster with a Transformational Coach.
Doing boundaries differently will just rearrange the furniture in your relationships, but BECOMING a boundaried person who inherently co-creates safe, balanced, and supportive connection, is a whole other level. My job is to help you level-up. If that’s what you’re here for, then you’re in the right place :)
I am so crunched for time lately! What if I fall behind on the work?
I hear you. Life gets so full of have-tos that it can squeeze out any room for the want-tos! (Especially when we have Flimsy Fences…) If breaking out of a cycle of overwhelm, resentment, and disappointment is not a priority for you at this time, then just come back when it is :)
If it’s something you’re experiencing as more of a need than a want, then I trust that you will find a way to make the time for it. And if you give it your best, and still fumble, I will help you get back up :)
Both of our jobs in this arrangement involve showing up. I will provide my support as agreed, and you will reap the benefits to the extent that you are able to. Either way – it’s all God ;)
Can we talk first to help me decide if this is a good fit?
Absolutely – I insist :) It’s important that we both feel resonant in working together, so I always start every coaching relationship with a Connection Call.
Self care IS relational care.
This program is an excellent act of self-care that will nurture all of your current and future relationships, which will in turn nurture you.
You’re doing great!
Namaste
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