Becoming Secure

Many of us did not receive the support and guidance we needed in our formative years to develop the type of security within ourselves that leads to a sense of security in relationship with others.

Instead, we’re left with an unsettling pattern of INSECURE relationship dynamics, routinely feeling unmet in our needs, unseen, unappreciated, and with too much or too little space to breathe easily and feel accepted as we are – relationship after relationship.

As adults, it becomes our job to provide that essential loving support to ourselves, so that we can show up as integrated individuals and co-create mature and stable relationships, built on interdependence, rather than enmeshed codependence.

The path of becoming secure in love can be hard to make out and fraught with frustration and despair. For the self-aware woman who is braving it, I am here to shine a light on the “rocks” in your way.

My name is Mariya Graestone, and I am a Love Coach, but you can think of me as a Relation-Ship Lighthouse.

You are a powerful being! I am here to illuminate that reality for you and steer you towards compassionately empowered expression, so that Love can flow more freely in your life and in the World.

Chances are…
your relationship, while it might not be bringing you the ultimate joy and connection you desire, is quite likely the perfect training ground for practicing SELF-LOVE, so that you can find the joy and connection you seek.

It’s possible that your own growth will inspire shifts in your partner, resulting in a more love-filled relationship, BUT their path is their own, and we are not here to change people, only to love them – even if it comes to pass that we do need to part ways in the process.

Most of the popular advice out there emphasizes empowerment at the expense of compassion, as though the two are mutually exclusive. I’m a bit different in that I nurture interdependence by creating space for a synergy of EMPOWERED COMPASSION.

If you’re new to me, follow me online for a bit. I often post fresh insights to Facebook and Instagram.

Please, reach out any time – I would be delighted to explore, expand, and connect with you.

Looking forward,


P.S. I created a Facebook group to serve as a supportive community for women navigating the challenging terrain of an insecure attachment style. If this sounds like you, I encourage you to check it out, and if it feels right, join us! >> Empowered Compassion.

I also facilitate another Facebook group called Mastering Interdependence for a more holistic perspective beyond just romantic relationships; you are certainly welcome to join me there, as well.

And if you’re into DIY, I’ve published The Path to Interdependence as a starting guide that you can work through on your own to lay the groundwork for your growth. If you decide partway through that you’d like a hand, you can always reach out.