About

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Mariya Graestone

Love Coach

The truth is: it’s not about me.

It’s more about you – but it’s even bigger than that…

It’s really about Love, the lifeforce that flows through you and me and the entire Universe.

I have deep appreciation for your dedication to bringing more love into the world through you. In this effort, we are already aligned, and you have my undying support.


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My Love Story

As a lifelong student of personal development, coaching became a natural expression of my passion – it is my Path of Service.

And when I discovered Relationship to be the most fertile ground for my deepest inner work, my specialty began to take shape.

The roots of it go back to the early stages of a new romantic intrigue that quickly brought on a particularly familiar unpleasant realization: This person wasn’t going to meet my needs.

As it dawned on me that I had been here before – and on more than one occasion – I decided to try something different. When everything around me was urging me to leave, I cupped my ear to my heart, and I opted to lean in.

What I discovered was an unfulfilling reliance on external validation for my sense of worth and acceptance, and the salvational ability to validate myself.

From there, I embarked on a journey of self love and acceptance that took me through 7 years of a relational crucible that purified my relationship with myself.

In that process, I learned how to accept others as they are, to stop trying to change them or even wish for them to step out of their own alignment, and I learned how to provide my own approval and security.

Relationship is my personal dojo. It is my healing ground my mirror, and my greatest teacher. In sacred partnership, it is my sanctuary.

Background

My credentials aren’t the formal kind…

I completed a DIY personal development course when I was 10 or 12, and later went on to devour several books on the subject, including “The Road Less Traveled”, by M. Scott Peck.

As I matured out of adolescence and pursued a variety of interests, I continually took notes on things I’d pick up here and there on the topic.

By my mid-twenties, began to compile all that I’d learned into a book, with the hopes that it might ease someone else’s journey.

After exploring a wide variety of professional exploits (including Travel Agent, Dog Trainer, and Hosteller), I made my way to a coaching course (created by an ICF certified coach), and embarked upon my Path of Purpose.

Studies

In the following few years, I consumed several Mindvalley courses and webinars, completed Bob Proctor’s 24-week course, “Thinking Into Results”, studied Nonviolent Communication, practiced Authentic Relating and Circling, did an intensive Authentic Leadership and Facilitation Training, read countless articles and inspiring posts, as well as numerous books, and apprenticed with energetic masters.

Some of the most influential books I’ve read include Ken Wilbur’s “Integral Life Practice”, Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth”, Charles Eisenstein’s “The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible”, Pema Chodron’s “When Things Fall Apart”, and Michael A. Singer’s “The Untethered Soul”.

Through it all, my own personal development has perpetually evolved and become brilliantly refined. I have worked with a number of guides and a variety of modalities, made all of them my own, incorporated what fit for me, discarded what didn’t, learned to hear my own inner guidance, and released the drive to “fix” myself and others. What I have now, I call my Peaceful Power Practice.

Contributions

Along my journey, I’ve discovered that I find the purest joy in connecting with other humans, and that I’m a naturally gifted teacher. I have a deep appreciation for the human experience, and I have found nothing more fulfilling than guiding others to the light within themselves – as I’ve done for dozens of individuals, and sparked in hundreds more.

I believe that the best guides are those who 1) are headed where we’re headed, but not yet already there; 2) started where we started, not from a different position; and 3) are only a few steps ahead of us, so we can still see their light and they still remember the steps they took and the difficulties that we will be facing.

One result of this perspective (particularly point #2) is that I do not consider myself fit to coach men. I see their journeys as distinct from those of women, and while I have deep respect for their path, my frame of reference for it is very limited.

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Your Choice

I don’t pretend to be an idealized human with all the answers. I do offer my authentic self, though, and a loving space for you to express your authentic self and to learn to bring it into your relationships and your whole life.

Choosing a love coach is a very personal matter. Find one who resonates with you. Read through some of my blog posts or watch some of my videos to learn more about my philosophy. If you think I might be the one, let’s have a chat to be sure.

Please note: I’m not here to save you or fix you, and I only work with women who exercise Personal Responsibility. I do respect wherever you’re at on your path, though, and when you’re ready, I’ll be here.

Namaste