Greetings, my fellow travelers on this divine journey. I am deeply honored and delighted to present Sara Ness as my guest this week, where we explore the of the “E” of The GATES Method: Express your No without disconnecting.
Sara is Chief Catalyst at Authentic Revolution, and Research Director at Seek Healing, and she has guided over 10,000 participants worldwide into deeper connection with themselves and others – including leaders at Google, Dell, Mindvalley, and the National Weather Services.
She is also the founder of the Authentic Relating community in Austin, TX (where I live) – the folks with whom I first encountered truly healthy boundaries and the alarmingly disarming sense of Safety and Trust that resulted. This was where I became inspired to learn how to bring such qualities to my relationships, so it was truly a gift to have this conversation with Sara.
In this episode, we discuss different ways to be boundaried without disconnecting from our counterparts, including the “Yes-And” approach, and we examine various subjects, like pre-emptive resentment, emotional safety, drawing boundaries around behaviors instead of people, implementing progressive boundaries (from behaviors to patterns), getting collaborative with loved ones, navigating boundary pushback, and balancing care for others with care for self.
Do yourself a favor and go to https://www.authrev.org/ and check out all the amazing insights and tools that Sara and her team have created!
Here are a few in particular >>
A newly released on-demand conflict course: https://www.authrev.org/adc
The Fight Lab referenced in the show: https://www.authrev.org/fightlab
A wealth of resources – including a map to find local Authentic Relating communities: https://www.authrev.org/resources
The next episode’s topic is undecided as of this writing, but in the following one, another friend will join me to round out the GATES Method series with the “S” – so if you’re not already subscribed, be sure to get that sorted so you don’t miss it!
In the meantime, if you’re feeling ready to stop overgiving and start feeling appreciated, go to https://explorelovingboundaries.com and grab a no charge, no strings spot on my calendar for a space to be heard in your struggles and discuss available solutions.
Your journey is sacred. Fill it with Love.
Namaste